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Some of the topics handled at the 1st motivational event
- Do you always want to follow other peoples orders all your life?
- Do you always want others to lead you?
- Should your success depend on others or yourself?
- How can you exert yourself without being rude, overbearing, too know as they say…
Live your life on your standard. Do not let others control you. Do not accept things that you feel are against your nature.
How to skilfully talk to people
- The first step in increasing your skill in dealing with people (successful human relations) is to properly understand people and their nature. When you know why people do the things that they do, when you know why and how people will react under certain conditions – then and only then can you become a skilful manager of people. To be successful you need leader ship qualities
- Understanding people and human nature simply involves recognizing people for what they are – not what you think they are nor what you want them to be.
- People are primarily interested in themselves, not in you. Remember that man’s actions are governed by self thought, self interest. It has been that way from the beginning of time. This knowledge that people are primarily interested in themselves gives you the basis on which to work in your dealings with people. It also gives you the power and skill in your dealings with others. It is a key of life for you to realize that people are mainly interested in themselves and not in you.
- When you are talking to people, pick the most interesting subject in the world to them to talk about. What is the most interesting subject in the world to them? THEMSELVES.
- When you talk to people about themselves they will be deeply interested and utterly fascinated. They will think well of you for doing this. When you talk to people about themselves, you are rubbing them the right way; you are working with human nature. When you talk to people about you self you are rubbing people the wrong way and working against human nature. Take these four words out of your vocabulary “I”, “me”, “my”, “mine” and substitute for those four words, one word, the most powerful word spoken by the human tongue. “YOU!”.
- In the beginning don’t talk about yourself; it is hard to do but talk about them. With practice and patience the rewards will speak for itself.
- If you manoeuvre people into talking about themselves, they will like you very much. This is done by asking them questions about themselves.
- If you meet a senior person whom you want to learn from ask him to talk about himself or herself, they will be impressed by your interest in them and when they have finished talking will remember you always. That is the first step to getting acknowledgement from a powerful person. This can be used when you want someone to help you get a job in their company. Let them talk about their success, their path to success etc. Ask questions. Do your research about the person and when you do this I guarantee you will be one step to your goals..
- Be a good listener and do not interrupt even if it is boring, you have an agenda So------when talking to others, talk about them. And get them talking about themselves.
How to skilfully make people feel important
- The most universal trail you and all mankind have that is so strong that it makes men do the things that they do, good and bad – is the desire to be important, the desire to be recognized.
- So if you would be skilful in human relations, be sure to make people feel important. Remember that the more important you make people feel, the more they will respond to you.
- Everybody wants to be treated as a special person. Nobody wants to be treated as a looser and when they are ignored or talked down to, they are being treated as just that. Keep this in mind - to the other person he is just as important as you are to yourself. The use of this trait is one of the cornerstones of successful human relations.
Here are some tips on:
How to recognize people and make them feel important
- Listen to them when they are talking.
- Complement them when they deserve it.
- Use their names as often as possible.
- Pause before you answer them – gives the impression that you are thinking over what they have said.
- Use their words you and yours not I, me, my, mine.
- Acknowledge people who are waiting to see you
- Pay attention to everybody in a group not just the leader. A group is more than one.
How to listen to people
- Pay attention to everybody in a group not just the leader. A group is more than one.
- Lean towards the speaker and listen intensely
- Ask questions
- Stick to the speaker’s subject and don’t interrupt – don’t change the subject until he is finished no matter how anxious you are to get started on a new one
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